Lashing Out from the Volcano of Self

Don’t let the heat of the moment bring forth words you surely don’t mean. How many times have we said “F**k You!” to a person who we surely would not want to engage in sexual intercourse? I know it sounds silly but think about that. We also when we get hurt shout out “Jesus Christ” – Are we praying or blaming him for the pain? – Often it is the least religious of us or even Atheists who say it. Does this mean that they are not Atheists any longer? Hardly. 

But now let’s scratch deeper along this same thought process. How often do we in the heat of anger say things to people we care about that is directly opposite and even hurtful. How can someone who loves their spouse or lover say in the heat of an argument “I hate you”, “Your worthless”, “I wish I never met you”.

Remember no matter how much you make up later, if these words bubbled up from the heat of anger they might forgive you but do they forget?

I propose that we truly look at the people we have in our lives. Meditate on them – Think of all the ways we feel about them.  IF there is even a hint of them draining us in a negative way, you need to focus on this particular area and re-evaluate it.  Why do I feel this way? Is it because I don’t understand why they do this or that? Or is it because I’m afraid that if they do well in this area they might leave me? Or is it jealousy? 

How I wish that we would care enough about the people in our lives to love them enough to truly pre-emptively determine any possible bump in the road and deal with the root cause.  After all if you plant a beautiful tree along the side of a road that gets paved, sooner or later that same tree you love will cause the pavement to crack with its root system from underneath.  -  Who is to blame the tree or the person who paved a road so close to it?  Think on these things.

IF you love someone, truly in your life, you will invest the time in pre-emptively evaluate areas to love them flaws and all.  IF you let things wait till the pavement of time cracks the relationship it might prevent a repair without causing irreparable damage to the tree or even us as the road.

Think on these things my friends – for those you truly love and for yourselves so you can BE Truly Well.

Love,

Ron